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I’ve been thinking lately about who I am and why my personality is what it is.
When I was in high school, I was pretty much a robot - focused on school and sports and not much else. I was somewhat confident, but that didn't translate into social skills. I figured the same thing would continue in college. Then it happened... The Inspiration My life would be changed forever when a motivational speaker spoke at my school at a freshman orientation event. I can still picture myself sitting in the school auditorium and listening to the talk. The speaker said: "There is nobody in the world who EVERYBODY likes. So why are you worrying so much about what people think of you? So my attitude is IF YOU LIKE ME, THANKS. IF YOU DON'T, HAVE A GOOD DAMN DAY.'" In other words, be yourself and be at peace with the fact that some people will like you and some won't. I realized that my lack of social skills were caused by an excessive concern about what people thought about me. The logic of his statement set me free and sparked a lifelong study of social skills and eventually all things communication. Immediate Change By the end of college, I was becoming a confident, hardcore never-met-a-stranger, people person. After taking numerous public speaking-heavy classes, I decided to become a high school teacher - a job that is heavy on public speaking and social skills. I was completely transformed. I should add this disclaimer: committing to being yourself is not a license to be a jerk all in the name of "doing you." That is not what this is about. It should be a combination of being authentically you AND trying to be a good person. When you do both of those things, you can be free to relax and feel good about who you are and how you act. I totally bought in to what that speaker said that day, and I still do. You Can Do It Too If you want to improve your confidence, you might want to consider changing your mindset in the same way I did. My attitude is that I am going to be me. I'm going to try to be a good person. And if you like me, thanks... "What is the greatest communication component that needs improvement at the C-suite (executive) level?"
Part 2: "How does that differ from the rank-and-file mid-level manager?" > Great question. I will try to say this as nicely as I can. In my view the biggest communication problem that a lot of upper management people have is a weakness in basic social skills. Maybe they are so far removed from trying to make a good impression on everyone they meet that they get sloppy or out of practice with basic manners and likability. I’m not saying they’re bad people. It makes sense how that could happen. The middle management answer is easy. It’s a lack of being clear - causing way too many misunderstandings and inefficiencies. I hope that helped "Do you suggest a suit and tie for Zoom/video interviews?"
Part 2: "Thus far I've leaned towards staying casual, but I'm curious as to your opinion based on your suggestion to try to make it as close to in-person as possible." > This question was asked in response to a LinkedIn post about Zoom etiquette. My answer: If you notice in my post I said it should not be "much" different on Zoom compared to in person. So in general I would say to at least try to make it close. I think its a mistake to go totally casual on a zoom interview, because there's a chance that it might not look good to your interviewer. So my final answer is - go with a jacket and dress shirt at minimum, and consider wearing a tie as well - i.e. at least close to what you would do in person. I know of someone who wore a jacket and tie to a zoom interview where everyone was dressed very casually. That may be a little awkward, but it's not a mark against you. Way better to have that than the other way around. I think if you went with jacket and dress shirt and no tie, you would still be formal enough without the risk of WAY out-dressing everyone else and feeling awkward. Good luck! DC *Send me your question on the contact page about communication or social skills for any situation and I may answer it in a future post. I would love to hear from you |
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