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COMMUNICATION and SOCIAL SKILLS Situational Tips


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All the tips you need for..
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starting a conversation
Comment on t-shirt writing or other things that stand out

Read a book in public so you have a conversation starter 
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Don't Start A Conversation With A Contradictory/Apologetic Comment 

Put away headphones and stop looking at your phone when you are around people  Be open to conversations 

Don't start a conversation with a stranger by introducing yourself unless you are at a social function

...Wear or carry things that would inspire people to start a conversation with you  Shirts with writing, read a book, etc  

Memorize a few ice breaker comments 

Make starting a conversation easy with observational comments, complements, or even just "how are you" 

Eavesdrop on conversations to find a way to make a comment 

Never approach a stranger with an uptight type opening like the phrase "I have a question
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during a conversation
Focus on adding value to your conversations 

Don't ask a million questions 

Make Other People Comfortable 

Give people your undivided attention 

Try not to interrupt people

Be aware of other people’s comfort level during
conversations

Don't Be Afraid To Talk To Strangers

Master The Throwaway Comment

Genuinely be interested in people when you talk to them

ending a conversation
Know how to end a conversation smoothly (nice talking to you, meeting you, etc.)

Look for signals that the person you are talking to want to end your conversation

Learn to use body language to show you are interested in ending a conversation
eye contact
Use eye contact to show confidence and trustworthiness 

​Don't be weird about eye contact (no 0  or 100 %)

Don't Be An "Eye Contact Avoiding Zombie" 

​Make eye contact with everyone you pass by
Presentation skills
Avoid using analogies – most people mess them up 

Act like you are in charge

Be careful "comparing" things or people to something with a horrible reputation 

Don't chew gum when you're public speaking

Overcome nerves in public speaking by realizing
it's not important in big picture


Overpractice

Commit to being yourself 

Love your audience (Focus on what you can do for them)

Be well rested before giving a speech

Act like an authority
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on the phone
Imagine that you are friends with the person you are talking to

Don't play audio on your phone in public

Don't use your phone at the dinner table 

Text like you talk – answer fast, don’t just leave, etc.


Use good manners on the phone 


Always say hello and goodbye  Don’t be too casual


Be positive and friendly


Avoid sarcasm when you are texting or emailing unless you know the person REALLY well
social media
Answer and/or “like” when someone takes time to comment to you

Don’t get into arguments online

Never post anything after you have had a drink

Don’t use “likes” to try to flirt with someone

Don’t overread someone else giving you “likes” on social media

Don’t bash your bf or gf with generalized bad behavior comments

No full disclosure of every thought 

Avoid naming names in an insulting way. Even for celebrities 

Don’t use your social media page as your personal therapy arena

Don’t follow and then quickly unfollow just to gain followers yourself. 

Don’t base your self esteem on your social media followers and "like" numbers
social skills at work
Don’t publicly insult your coworkers

Don’t complain publicly about your boss

Return work emails, calls, and texts ASAP

Be careful about talking politics and religion at work

Don’t tell inappropriate jokes at work

Always follow through with your promises at work

Don't be the type who tries to get business by buttering people up.

Lower work stress by counting your professional blessings. 

Separate yourself from the competition by going above and beyond with your class and giving attitude

Don’t believe the idea that you have to be cut throat and dishonest to be successful in business is a myth.

Don’t break/change plans at work if at all possible.

Smile and be friendly when you work with the public, even if you are in a bad mood.

Make your customers or clients feel like they are important.

Don’t complain about you problems around customers. No unsuspecting therapists

​Always have good phone manners at work

Don't put too much pressure on any one business deal


Dont drink too much coffee, soda, or alcohol before professional events 

Don’t be intimidated by anyone in professional situations  


Job Interview – Have the mindset that you are interviewing them too  

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networking
Don't stay with one person for more than 5 minutes

Move on quickly when there is no interest

Have your 30 second pitch ready

Ask about the other person before you talk about yourself

Don't give your business card out immediately

Don't flirt or joke inappropriately

Read body language  Just be careful not to over read 

Know how to end a conversation gracefully

Limit the amount of alcohol you drink

Don't think of every interaction as pass/fail

Dress well

Fight bad breath by staying hydrated

Pretend like you are already great friends with everyone you meet

Don't be afraid to walk up to groups of two or more people talking

Talk to people who are alone

Write reminders to yourself on the back of business cards you receive

Arrive on time.  Stay as long as you can 

Send an email within 24  hours of getting contact info 

Don't wait for official networking events to network.  Do it wherever there are people 

Make introductions to help others

Don't talk to your friends or people you know for long

Don't force yourself into conversations  Read body language or wait to be invited in

​Don’t drink alcohol on an empty stomach
likability
Be Positive

Don't Be A Complainer 

Don't Be a Sugar Blower 

Don't be a try hard 

Don't be a busy body  

Be friendly without being fake  

Don’t be a close talker

When in doubt, always choose the classy move 

Go above and beyond with your classy moves  

Be kind 

Don't Hover Like a Helicopter 

Remember people's names and use them  

Keep your car clean 

Have good posture

Don't tell everyone about your problems

Bad breath tips – stay hydrated, get extra lemon in water, floss

Don't Try To Be Cool 

Be decisive  

Be humble  

Don't tell stories about the times you were drunk 

Keep your hands away from your face

Dress your age 

Don’t be clingy to your friends or date in social situations

Be Fun But Don't Be a Clown 

Slow down (movement, speech, etc ) 

Answer emails and texts quickly

Have a Little Swagger 

Treat Everyone You Meet Like They Are Important

Don’t use a person’s first name unless introduced
social comfort
Have a "no agenda" mindset
 

Seek inner peace  

Be authentic in all social situations 

Don't put too much pressure on any one situation  

Lower stress by counting blessings  

Improve your stranger approach skills by talking  to people wherever you go  

Be casual whenever possible 

Eliminate the fear of embarrassment

Remember that you can always walk away from a conversation if someone gets rude or boring  

Don’t fear awkwardness  Awkward is in your head.    
Get enough sleep and take naps 

Embrace risk taking  

Don't worry about things outside your control  

Keep your self-talk positive 

Don't label yourself as an introvert or extrovert 

Act confident 

Be fanatical about caring AND not caring what people think of you  

Try to find a place to lean on at social events   

Don’t be embarrassed to go out solo  

Don’t feel like you have to be the life of the party   

Pretend like you are already great friends with everyone you meet  

Have a "Hang Out" Mindset 

Find your inner peace  

​Study methods of reducing social anxiety
general social wisdom
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Mingle anytime, anywhere 

Don’t feel obligated to explain why you can’t go to something   

Avoid talking to strangers in loud places 

Use sarcasm to show that you aren't intimidated by someone (in person only)

Don't walk with your head down 

Handle a kidder/trash talker without emotion

Never give people the robotic "I'm fine, how are you" answer

Forgive and forget as much as possible

Don’t get into arguments or heated debates over stupid stuff 

Volunteer at a retirement home  

Be unemotional when someone insults you, challenges you, or gets aggressive  

Don't say anything digitally that you wouldn't want to be made public

Take a nap before going out

Avoid strangers who are drinking heavily 

Apologize when you mess up.  NOT when you don’t mess up  

Constantly look for opportunities to sharpen your social skills 

Go to everything you get invited to if you can
integrity/manners/class
Do what you say you are going to do

Don't use no answer as your "no" answer   

Don't break plans casually

Respect old people

Say “excuse me” if you bump into someone

Know how to take a compliment - say thank you and be quiet. 
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Be considerate of others (holding doors, picking up things they drop, etc ) 


Hold doors open for people when you can, say thank you when they do it for you

​Don’t “ghost” when you aren’t interested in talking to someone

Tip wait staff one more dollar than you think is the right amount
dancing
​Don't worry about being a bad dancer  Most people are  

Keep your movements small
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Remember that a dance is not a date  Don't make a bigger deal of it than it is 


​Don't ask a stranger for more than a dance or two in a row unless you are really hitting it off



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